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She has taken great lengths to teach us to “love one another” and treat each other as “we would want to be treated”.
For most children, this could seem like the most difficult task. EVER. But with my mom’s constant refereeing and discipline to keep us loving each other, my brother (18) and I are now the best of friends. We hardly ever quarrel, but rather play with each other like the closest of friends.
Books to help stop fighting in your house
There was a time when my mom would read my brother and I books to show us why we needed to be kind and not fight with each other. I’m sure a lot of what she read went over our heads, but we learned some.
- Sister for Sale!
- It’s Mine!
- The Berenstain Bears Get in a Fight
- Oh, Bother! Someone’s Fighting
- Help Me Be Good: Fighting
- Help Me Be Good: Being Mean
- Help Me Be Good: Being Selfish
- Help Me Be Good: Being Rude
- Help Me Be Good: Teasing
- Help Me Be Good: Tattling
- Help Me Be Good: Being Bossy
- Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends
The books listed above can help get your children to understand why you shouldn’t fight with each other and can even get them to realize how bad it looks, but it can’t always make them stop all together, so here are a few things that my mom would have us do whenever my brother and I would fight with each other…
Showing Brotherly Love
If my brother and I would get in a fight/quarrel, we had to hug each other (for what seems like FOREVER) until we both had a forgiving attitude. We despised having to “hug it out”, but honestly I think this worked amazingly for us. Every time I see the picture of a big brother and little sister sharing a shirt, I think…”I know how you feel, but you’ll be thankful down the road.”
Another thing my mom would have us do if we got in a fight was to write scripture with her Discipleship Book that she put together. She was tired of having to tell us to “stop having strife” and a whole bunch of other things, so she just put together this book full of verses and whenever we disobeyed the book came out.
We also had to play with each other ALL. THE. TIME. My mom would say that if “we can’t treat our own siblings like best friends than we just won’t go and see our friends.” Her point came from Proverbs when it says that “there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.” (meaning Jesus).
Now that my brother and I are both young adults, we are the best of friends and have been super close throughout our teen years. I can never imagine my life without my brother and I know he feels the same way.
Whenever I hear the song, My Sister, I get all warm and fuzzy inside. I love that song! In fact, I just made that my ringtone for my brother…
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