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Being a girl myself I totally get the whole self-esteem thing. I didn’t have a whole bunch of it when I was younger. I was very self-conscience, and sometimes find myself still feeling a little uncomfortable in my own skin. When I was little I had huge buck teeth that happened to be super crooked, and when I was about twelve, my face was covered with acne so this totally made me feel uncomfortable. I felt like a rabbit with measles or something.
Fortunately, I had a mother who constantly told me that I was beautiful. When you have someone tell you that every single day, you can actually start to believe it, but you have to believe it deep down.
Books on Building Self-Esteem
for little girls
- I’m Gonna Like Me
- Happy to Be Me
- I Want Your Moo
- If Only I Had a Green Nose
- You Are Special
- The Pig Who Didn’t Want to be Pink
- Matilda Learns about Being Unique
for big girls (a.k.a. teenagers)
- So Long, Insecurity (and So Long, Insecurity Devotional Journal)
- Perfectly Unique
- You’re Already Amazing
- The Girl in the Mirror
- Who Calls Me Beautiful?
- The Comparison Game
Help your daughter realize her uniqueness and true beauty…
– Tell your daughter you love her every. single. day. It doesn’t matter how many times you say it or whether they really act excited about it, just say it. I know that every day my mom says, “Cassondra. I love you.” Naturally, I would say ‘I love you’ back. I would put a smile on my face many times, but even if it didn’t, it left an imprint on my heart. I never have to doubt whether or not my parents love me. Ever.
– Tell your daughter she is beautiful. When a girl really struggles with her self-esteem, having people tell her she is beautiful can really go a long way. A girl always needs to hear that she is beautiful, especially when she is always being shown what the world thinks a “beautiful woman” should look like. My parents taught me that outward beauty isn’t as important as inward beauty. More and more now I am seeing little girls shirts saying: “BeYOUtiful” and “Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful”. The sayings are absolutely true and encouraging, but do we really need shirts now to state that we are beautiful?
“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
– Take the time to talk with your daughter. Having someone to talk to has always been helpful for me. Sometimes I felt so ugly. Like a rabbit with measles, kind of ugly. My mom took the time to talk with me, whether it was over cloth shopping, or out to eat. She made me feel beautiful, with what she said about me.
– Take the time to listen to your daughter. I complained about my teeth. I complained about my acne. Those two major things made me feel terrible. My mom listened. She heard my complaints and she went to my dad. I got braces. It was a painful, long and expensive procedure, but at the end, I felt great. At 13, I got bangs to cover my acne covered forehead. My mom helped me research all these natural ways I could do to get rid of my acne. I tried oatmeal and then found the real gem in Apple Cider Vinegar. I put that on my face after each shower and it cleared it up. Now I have found Burt’s Bees Deep Cleansing Cream! My mom listened to what I didn’t like about myself and she helped me fix it.
What do you do to build your daughter’s self-esteem?